Reevive Club

You know someone like him, he has brilliant ideas, grand dreams, a sparkle in his eyes like someone born for something EXTRA ordinary. He talks about incredible projects, he lives on possibilities, but never brings anything to fruition. Yes, we are talking about that one Man-Child you know.

If you’re reading this means you know someone who is suffering, who is in illusion of great, who is a Man-Child like.

He gives excuse for each failure, like, “It wasn’t the Right Time”, “It wasn’t the Right Person”, “The World hasn’t understood me yet”. May be he is a Childhood friend of yours, maybe he is you partner, maybe a younger brother, maybe he is your father and maybe he is one of your neighbor. Someone who despite their age seems to has stopped in a timeline ( An Adult who still lives in hid Childhood).

Emotionally unstable more so ever confused like ” What to do Now, Next or Ever?” Averse to commitments, always seeking freedom and fleeing from any real responsibilities. And maybe, just ‘MAYBE’ part of you still hopes that he will change one day after ‘Great Era of Realization’, and yes, he will relize one day but in every negative sense.

Carl Jung, called this as psychic pattern ‘Puer Aeternus ( The Eternal Boy)’.

IT’S THE ARCHETYPE OF THE MAN, WHO REFUSES TO GROW UP

who lives eternally in transition, as he always prepares to live, but never actually starting to live. He enchants with his youthful energy just like Mercury ( Young, Charming, Alluring, Unstable ), his creativity and his spontaneous ways. But there’s shadow behind this charm ‘The inability to deal with the demands of the Real World’.

The puer (Man-child) expects life to conforms to his desires that others will solve for him, what he refuses to face. He idealizes the perfect woman, the perfect job, the perfect family, the perfect life. And when reality doesn’t matches to his idea of life, he escapes, he flees, he becomes distant and self criticizing, he breaks aways, he gives up on things which was once very important for him, and in the end he looks for rescue.

He often paralyzed by fear of failing and rejections, his minds always reminds him of wounds he has not the happiness the enjoyed, eventually he becomes blind because all he can see is darkness admist of lights.

If you have ever tried to help someone like this, you know how exhausting it is. You get tired giving advice that goes unheard, of offering support that has wasted, of trying to pull someone who deep down doesn’t wants to move.

AND, the cruelest part that he makes you feel guilty. As of you been a problem for demand to face his real responsibilities, to want to be mature.

But the truth needs to be said, this Man you know is trapped. Trapped in Fantasy of Freedom, in the practice is a prison of fear and denial from growth. And if doesn’t wake up he will grow old without ever having truly lived.

My Article will may sound harsh, because we confronting reality and washing illusion from one’s mind. Even Shiva himself drank nectar to protect Devtas and Danava, and here we’re helping humans which requires intellectual criticism and acceptance like Shiva.

If you read this far it means you’re recognizing the pattern and that person or perhaps you yourself.

WHO IS THE MAN-CHILD? THE ETERNAL BOY?

This Boy is just not a type of personality. It is a deep Archetype, a psychic force that operates in unconscious of thousands of men and is often confused with charisma, spontaneity, or a free spirit. But behind this light appearance, there is something much more serious an almost instinctive refusal to grow up.

The Eternal Boy tendency to refusal of growing up is a by product of motherly care, the “Psychic womb of Mother” where everything is taken care of, protected and resolved. He lives in the shadow of the promise of a glorious tomorrow that never arrives. The Eternal Boy always feels that he is a special one, the chosen one; but in practice he never takes charge of his own life.

You have seen this up close, Man who jumps from job to job, decision to decision, always seeking something more meaningful, who start projects with enthusiasm but abandon them at the first obstacle, who fall in love intensely but soon he disappears when relation starts to demand real life responsibilities and maturity. He gives the reasons also called excuses for failures that “Maybe time is not good”, Maybe I am not ready, Maybe destiny don’t want it to be happen; but never takes stand for his life and karma. He never acknowledge that love is not a open option it is wisdom, test of universe , self-knowledge, freedom.

He over promises to everyone after knowing that he is not at capacity to take care of his love ones, it doesn’t means that doesn’t knows this, it reflects that The Eternal Boy don’t want to Accept the Reality. The Eternal Boy is intelligent, creative, driven but he lives in the real of ideas and escapes the weight of reality. He wants to fly without building wings, he wants to take care of everyone without earning enough, he wants to be happy without being happy. Once love without commitment, Once success without efforts, Once reward of adulthood without paying the price of maturity this Eternal Boy ( Man-child) suffers. And when the world does not deliver this, he revolts, he blames the system, blames the parents, blames life, blames ex partners but never himself. Carl Jung said that this Eternal Boy suffers from a disconnection with time. He is always in a not now, always waiting to something happen first, The Right Idea, The Right Woman, The Right Phase, The Right Place, Eternal Boy never understands that there is no perfect time or space to something happen for good.

In our next chapter we will talk about the Great Mother of The Eternal Boy…

Sincerely,

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